2 Samuel 13
2 Samuel 13 deals with pain and tragedy within King David’s family—specifically a series of events that unfold between Amnon and Tamar, and then between Absalom and the others. This chapter consists of the incident in which David’s eldest son Amnon falls in love with his half-sister Tamar and ultimately forcibly violates her (verses 1–14), Absalom’s subsequent revenge (verses 15–29), and David’s response and the sorrow that hangs over the royal household (verses 30–39).
| Verses 1–14 | The Tragedy of Amnon and Tamar |
| Verses 15–22 | Tamar’s Pain and Absalom’s Silence |
| Verses 23–29 | Absalom’s Calculated Revenge |
| Verses 30–39 | Absalom’s Flight and David’s Sorrow |
1verseAfter this, Absalom the son of David had a beautiful sister, whose name was Tamar; and Amnon the son of David loved her.
2verseAmnon was so troubled that he became sick because of his sister Tamar, for she was a virgin, and it seemed hard to Amnon to do anything to her.
3verseBut Amnon had a friend whose name was Jonadab the son of Shimeah, David’s brother; and Jonadab was a very subtle man.
4verseHe said to him, “Why, son of the king, are you so sad from day to day? Won’t you tell me?” Amnon said to him, “I love Tamar, my brother Absalom’s sister.”
5verseJonadab said to him, “Lay down on your bed and pretend to be sick. When your father comes to see you, tell him, ‘Please let my sister Tamar come and give me bread to eat, and prepare the food in my sight, that I may see it and eat it from her hand.’”
6verseSo Amnon lay down and faked being sick. When the king came to see him, Amnon said to the king, “Please let my sister Tamar come and make me a couple of cakes in my sight, that I may eat from her hand.”
7verseThen David sent home to Tamar, saying, “Go now to your brother Amnon’s house, and prepare food for him.”
8verseSo Tamar went to her brother Amnon’s house; and he was lying down. She took dough, kneaded it, made cakes in his sight, and baked the cakes.
9verseShe took the pan and poured them out before him, but he refused to eat. Amnon said, “Have all men leave me.” Then every man went out from him.
10verseAmnon said to Tamar, “Bring the food into the room, that I may eat from your hand.” Tamar took the cakes which she had made, and brought them into the room to Amnon her brother.
11verseWhen she had brought them near to him to eat, he took hold of her and said to her, “Come, lie with me, my sister!”
12verseShe answered him, “No, my brother, do not force me! For no such thing ought to be done in Israel. Don’t you do this folly!
13verseAs for me, where would I carry my shame? And as for you, you will be as one of the fools in Israel. Now therefore, please speak to the king; for he will not withhold me from you.”
14verseHowever, he would not listen to her voice; but being stronger than she, he forced her and lay with her.
15verseThen Amnon hated her with exceedingly great hatred; for the hatred with which he hated her was greater than the love with which he had loved her. Amnon said to her, “Arise, be gone!”
16verseShe said to him, “Not so, because this great wrong in sending me away is worse than the other that you did to me!” But he would not listen to her.
17verseThen he called his servant who ministered to him, and said, “Now put this woman out from me, and bolt the door after her.”
18verseShe had a garment of various colors on her, for the king’s daughters who were virgins dressed in such robes. Then his servant brought her out and bolted the door after her.
19verseTamar put ashes on her head, and tore her garment of various colors that was on her; and she laid her hand on her head and went her way, crying aloud as she went.
20verseAbsalom her brother said to her, “Has Amnon your brother been with you? But now hold your peace, my sister. He is your brother. Don’t take this thing to heart.” So Tamar remained desolate in her brother Absalom’s house.
21verseBut when King David heard of all these things, he was very angry.
22verseAbsalom spoke to Amnon neither good nor bad; for Absalom hated Amnon, because he had forced his sister Tamar.
23verseAfter two full years, Absalom had sheep shearers in Baal Hazor, which is beside Ephraim; and Absalom invited all the king’s sons.
24verseAbsalom came to the king and said, “See now, your servant has sheep shearers. Please let the king and his servants go with your servant.”
25verseThe king said to Absalom, “No, my son, let’s not all go, lest we be burdensome to you.” He pressed him; however he would not go, but blessed him.
26verseThen Absalom said, “If not, please let my brother Amnon go with us.” The king said to him, “Why should he go with you?”
27verseBut Absalom pressed him, and he let Amnon and all the king’s sons go with him.
28verseAbsalom commanded his servants, saying, “Mark now, when Amnon’s heart is merry with wine; and when I tell you, ‘Strike Amnon,’ then kill him. Don’t be afraid. Haven’t I commanded you? Be courageous, and be valiant!”
29verseThe servants of Absalom did to Amnon as Absalom had commanded. Then all the king’s sons arose, and every man got up on his mule and fled.
30verseWhile they were on the way, the news came to David, saying, “Absalom has slain all the king’s sons, and there is not one of them left!”
31verseThen the king arose, and tore his garments, and lay on the earth; and all his servants stood by with their clothes torn.
32verseJonadab the son of Shimeah, David’s brother, answered, “Don’t let my lord suppose that they have killed all the young men, the king’s sons, for Amnon only is dead; for by the appointment of Absalom this has been determined from the day that he forced his sister Tamar.
33verseNow therefore don’t let my lord the king take the thing to his heart, to think that all the king’s sons are dead; for only Amnon is dead.”
34verseBut Absalom fled. The young man who kept the watch lifted up his eyes and looked, and behold, many people were coming by way of the hillside behind him.
35verseJonadab said to the king, “Behold, the king’s sons are coming! It is as your servant said.”
36verseAs soon as he had finished speaking, behold, the king’s sons came, and lifted up their voices and wept. The king also and all his servants wept bitterly.
37verseBut Absalom fled and went to Talmai the son of Ammihur, king of Geshur. David mourned for his son every day.
38verseSo Absalom fled and went to Geshur, and was there three years.
39verseKing David longed to go out to Absalom, for he was comforted concerning Amnon, since he was dead.
Overall Meaning and Reflection
This chapter shows a serious moral and ethical crisis within David’s household. Amnon’s wrongdoing and Tamar’s suffering, along with Absalom’s silence and revenge, symbolically demonstrate how destructive the effects of sin can be—not only in a single family, but even in a nation’s leadership home. As a father and as a king, David fails to set things right and hesitates, leaving behind wounds and discord that run even deeper. In the complex emotions and actions of each person, you can reflect on human weakness and the responsibility before God.
Points to Reflect On
- We reflect on how hidden wrongdoing in our hearts can sometimes surface through outward actions.
- When a problem arises, we think about what impact a passive attitude from the one responsible can have.
- It’s necessary to pay attention to the victim’s suffering and the reactions around them, and to seek together the path to proper healing and restoration.
Applying It to Myself
- When conflict or wounds arise in individuals and communities, we reflect on whether we can respond proactively and correctly with God’s wisdom—without watching from the sidelines or turning away.
- In daily life, we apply it by practicing how to comfort those who have been hurt nearby and to live with the effort to achieve a just resolution.